Have you ever just casually glanced at or even checked out a Chic, thought, sure she’s hot – but then she gives you the stare back and immediately you know what she’s thinking… You want to get in her pants!
Oh no – we’re undressing her with our eyes. Shame on us. We only have sex on our minds and that day, she’s the object of our desires. We’re poor pathetic men who can only think with our dicks.
Yes, it’s understandable that sex may be an option but this goes much deeper, doesn’t it? We’re talking about a girl thinking or believing JUST because she’s attractive (hot, wears skimpy clothing, shows some skin) that we automatically want to sleep with her so we get the “attitude”.
This attitude usually depends on the moment and the dude doing it. It also depends on if she likes the attention or “pretends” to not like it when “we know” she does, but will never admit it to anyone probably including herself.
Matters get much worse when we start talking to her and she’s already assuming (since she’s the hottest thing on the planet) we could have no other plan but to throw her down for a quick lay. She can not possibly see us having anything else on our minds than even just a simple conversation which was actually our intention. You know, to get to know her.
She couldn’t even remotely realize how our sexual desires could quickly be overruled because sometimes when we first started talking to her – she’s turned out to be a total bitch.
Okay, I get it. I’m not into female bashing but this MUST be said – just because she’s hot, doesn’t give her the right to assume we’re ONLY looking for sex.
She doesn’t like to be objectified BUT neither do we.
Let’s be totally honest – sex is always an option. It’s kind of what makes the world go round and round and up and down (depending on your favorite sexual position and the condition on your bed). But that option goes both ways. Girls and guys alike BOTH think about it… a lot.
Sure it’s a problem when sex becomes the main focus or goal of any guy but I’m more than happy to say that MOST men just want a nice cool chic to date, marry, or be his girlfriend. They’ll take the sex of course but it’s NOT the main driving force of their entire lives.
Let’s do the science and find out how often men are actually thinking about sex.
Recent experiments revealed something very interesting about men and how often they think about sex. Please read the entire report before you draw any kind of real conclusion because there are variables in place which must be taken into account:
“We found that the median number of sexual thoughts for men was 18.6 and for women it was 9.9. In contrast, the average for men was 34.2 and for women it was 18.6. Statistical tests indicated that the number of thoughts about sex was not statistically larger than the number of thoughts about food and sleep. Men had more thoughts about all three of those areas than did women. These findings paint a rather different picture of men than does the urban legend of thinking about sex many times per minute. The typical men in this sample were thinking about sex once or twice an hour, and statistically no more and no less than they were thinking about eating or sleeping.“
The experiment clearly notes that yes, some guys think about sex more than some women, but also some women think about sex more than some guys. It also states very clearly that men had more thoughts on all three items – sex, food, and sleeping and they were generally equal. (Hmmmm maybe when a chic thinks some guy is undressing her with his eyes he’s actually thinking, “Shit I’m fucking hungry and I didn’t get any sleep last night.”)
The study unfortunately doesn’t distinguish between the guys who get laid regularly (or have a wife or girlfriend) than the typical sexually deprived dude. We all know the longer you go without it, the more you think about it (just like food and sleep). Add to that some chic showing off her body and of course you would expect the deprived man to at least think about it more often.
What’s my REAL problem with a chic thinking or believing just because she’s attractive EVERY guy just wants to get in her pants.
The annoying things are with girls who think this way is her attitude, her objectification, her wrong assumptions, her disbelief that her problems of beauty stop guys from seeing her as a person when she couldn’t be more wrong.
Sure it happens. Guys will stare and check her out. It’s kind of our thing but I know for a fact women do it to guys and they certainly stare at other women too.
Another real problem is that guys are scared shitless of approaching a woman and this is one BIG reason among many other of course.
Let us say!
Trying to start a conversation does in no way imply we’re only want sex just because of the way she might look. Her inability to see the bigger picture because she’s so wrapped up in her “beauty bubble” she can not see past it.
Her wrong assumptions that our end goal is to use her for sex and nothing more.
Her misguided thinking that just because she’s hot or sexy or whatever that ALL guys who she’s doesn’t want only her see as a body and the only man or guys she wants won’t even give her the time of day.
Okay for the WHY part – why do some chics actually think this way?
- Because they might believe their beauty is a curse. (As if being or feeling ugly is any better.)
- How it may grant them certain rights over men which in no way validates their worth as a real person.
- The mere thought of not being able to go anywhere without being “checked out” destroys any hope they have for privacy or for finding a man who is more interested in her and not her body.
- The pressure of having to live up to the expectations of beauty and maintain their looks under any and all circumstances.
- The feelings other women (or men) might hate them just because of how they look.
- How she feels like no matter where she goes, some dude is going to hit on her and try to pick her up; and that guy can be anyone from some young “punk” to her best friends creepy Grandfather.
I’m positive that’s just a few reasons why a chic might develop an attitude problem on this highly debatable subject matter.
So you can clearly see, I’m not against the plight or problems of the beautiful. I’ve even written an article to explain it to guys in a way to help them actually attract a sexy chic.
I also agree that because of how certain guys act there may be some women inclined to think that ALL guys want to get in her pants but that does NOT excuse the attitude or the prejudice towards the “average dude” who may (or may not) only wanted to get to know her.
Just the same as you wouldn’t me to behave in a way that just because I have lots of money (which I don’t) that ALL women who talk to me or check me out in my overly expensive fancy car want to use me for my money.
It goes both ways.
We don’t all want to get in your pants.
Some of us don’t even find you attractive no matter how dress.
We’re not all into hot bods with no brains who can suck the rust of a tailpipe.
We’re not thinking about sex 24/7. Some of us get it and enjoy it enough to actually not have it run our lives.
If you don’t want to be objectified than just maybe you should stop doing it to us, stop making snap judgments about us dudes.
We want the same things most normal well-adjusted humans want and to each its own on that thing.
Just because you’re hot, sexy, beautiful, dressed up, showing some skin, dancing on a pole (okay that last one might not count here) doesn’t mean we all just want to fuck you.